Wedding banquets

I have recently attended 2 wedding banquets, one was my cousin's party and the latest one was that of my friend's son. They are both at their late 20's or early 30's. There's nothing to do with age but their maturity of thinking. The 2 parties have some common things:

1) No respects to the parents or the older generation
2) Very self-centered
3) Little consideration of the guests

First of all, the parents were not arranged in the head tables. Only the bridesmaids and friends were sitting together with the new couples. Secondly, the seat arrangements were not well considered. I believe that everybody prefers to sit together with someone they know, not strangers or at least not someone not speaking the same language. Thirdly, all the arrangements were so messy. For example, the cake was not big enough to feed all the guests; the speeches were too long; the hosts could not even pronounce the names right when they introduced the relatives of the couples; no consideration of the volume of the AV facilities, etc.

Maybe I'm too old-fashioned and actually too old to understand the thoughts of the younger generation. Wedding banquet is a party of the new wed couples but also a special dinner to celebrate with their parents. Other than the couple, the ones who would be very happy will be their parents. For me, I would rather to make my parents happy and consider from their points of view. My wedding banquet was not perfect, and I could say not a happy one because there're too many people involved. I and my husband had planned out fine but just too many other people being so enthusiastic to offer help which made it too overwhelming. But overall, it was a memorable night.