How much is enough?

How much money do you need to consider enough?
I have seen so many families ended up split into pieces because of money.
Brothers and sisters, uncles and nephews...fight for money after the parents passed away.
Husbands and wives argued on how to split the processions after they divorced.
Money is lovely when you need it and you will be happy that you don't have to earn it the hard way.
Money is devil when you are controlled by it; if you don't know why you want more money but just try to grab some more, it is the most stupidest thing in your life.

Recently, I have seen some good examples of money being a devil. It's so sad to hear these stories.

1st story: relatives fighting for money after the grandmother passed away

The grandmother had 2 sons and 5 daughters. The 2 sons used to take care of the mother (actually lived next door of her home) and her properties. Her husband worked hard to buy 2-3 apartment buildings, he died young and left all the processions to his wife. This grandmother gave the apartment buildings to the 2 sons who appeared to be close to their sisters when their mother was still alive. They had gathering all the times and everyone seemed to be so caring and friendly to the others. After the grandmother died, the 1st son was given the rights as the executor of her will. There was $200,000 cash left to be divided amongst 13 people, namely the 2 sons, the 4 daughters (one of the daughters died young), 3 son-in-laws (1 son-in-law passed away and 1 daughter had divorced) and the 4 grand-daughters (the daughters of the 2 sons). This grandmother had many many grandsons and granddaughters but the grandchildren of the daughters were not included in her will. She preferred the 2 sons because of old thinking that only the sons carry the family name.

The 1st son had spent one whole year to decide what much each person would get. In this one year, this family was not the same any more. There was no more gathering. The brothers and sisters argued on how to split the money for so many times. Eventually, some of the children of this grandmother have bigger shares because they "watched" their mother. Someone found out that the will had been rewritten one year before the death of this grandmother and she was already 95 years ago at that time. Her ability to judge was queried.

After one year, one of the son-in-laws, whose wife (the grandmother's daughter) died 40 years ago, was given $25,000. He has 4 children and a 2nd wife that he married for 39 years. This man decided to split the whole amount into 6 shares and each child and his wife received a bit more than $4,000. His step-wife complained about that and she believes that she should have 50% of the $25,000 that her husband received. She folded a feet, screamed at the husband, refused to cook and complained to the other relatives how mean her husband treated her. To me, I consider that she should have nothing because she has no relationship to this grandmother. She is not her daughter and the money was given to her husband because of his ex-wife.

2nd story: husband and wife argued after divorce

My husband's best friend cheated on his wife several times. Finally, his wife kicked him out from the house and asked for divorce. The husband felt guilty and decided to give everything to his wife. However, the husband's family got involved and made the case very complicated. First of all, the mother of the husband talked to the wife and asked her to return the jewelry that she gave to the daughter-in-law when she married her son. They have been married for 13 years. Secondly, the husband's sister said to the wife that she must have done something bad that made her brother cheat on her. On the other hand, the wife's family also interfered. The wife's father refused to return the money that the husband has invested through him. Then, he promised to buy the husband's share of the house but then he said that he's talking about the original price of the house regardless of the inflation and increase of property value.

Finally, the husband and wife promised to split everything in half and they also split the expenses for raising their son such as tuition. They keep seeing each other every week but they argue on everything about how to share the bills. I know that they still love each other but they both admitted that it's impossible for them to be husband and wife again. With all the argument in a roll, it is hard for them to realize that there's still love in their eyes. I feel sorry for their son who will never able to celebrate his birthday or Christmas with the presence of both parents because the extended families hate each other.