爱情天梯 Ladder of Love Part 2 of 3

陳艾玲 悲秋 -- 秋天的故事

陳艾玲 悲秋 -- 秋天的故事
曲:黃國倫 詞:黃國倫 主唱:陳艾玲 獨白:黃國倫
《悲秋》

主唱：陳艾玲 由/詞：黃國倫 獨白：黃國倫

男白：我不知道，你是怎樣離去？ 是悲傷無奈還是哭泣？ 終於，我真的失去了你。 唉，該來的還是躲不及。

女白：你說分離，不需要原因。 一如相愛，沒有道理。 哼，我說你真的天真的可以呀！ 我們相愛，何需要分離？

女唱：我在過去中尋找你，我在未來中等待你。 但是現在你在那裡，你在那裡？ 我在記憶中尋找你，我在盼望中等待你。 告訴我你不會變心，不會離去。

男白：突然一切，都變得清晰。 迷夢一場，終於驚醒。 現在我才真正的知道。 唉，我是多麼愛妳！

合唱：我們的命運，早已註定。 你我都沒法抗拒。 就像美麗的故事，都是悲劇。 花好總須凋零。

女唱：我在過去中尋找你，我在未來中等待你。 但是現在你在那裡，你在那裡？ 我在記憶中尋找你，我在盼望中等待你。 告訴我你不會變心，不會離去。

陳艾玲的[悲秋]是她眾多歌曲中,給人們留下最深印象的歌曲,[秋天的童話]也是一張不朽之專輯,整體而論,作曲,填詞,編曲和演釋,均能達到靈,魂,體,一致的高水準,­能超越時間和空間送到你我心靈深處,為可會有這樣大的感染力?這因烏陳艾玲有著一個跟常人不一樣的經歷1980年9月陳艾玲和林育如一起考上了協和工商美工科為同班同學，­開始的時間,彼此還看對方不順眼，林育如的個性活潑開朗，陳艾玲則是內向、謹慎, 後來因同時加入了民謠社，天天一起練唱,最後成為了生死莫逆之交，開始了走進兩人的歌唱生命的一生。在高二、三時兩個人常代表學校去參加比賽，畢業後陳艾玲考進大學，林育­如在雜誌社從事美編工作，晚上二人在西餐廳演唱，林育如負責彈吉他，陳艾玲彈鍵盤，後來越唱越有興趣，陳艾玲最終放棄升學，林育如辭去白天工作,二人成為專職歌手。兩個人­的合作默契也越來越好。1984年6月參加中視六燈獎民歌彈唱，長達半年比賽，得到十八次衛冕成功，同時在西餐廳的演唱極受歡迎。因而在西餐廳演唱的連續長達到四年多之久­，與此同騎兩人都有些職業倦怠，正在此時,鄉城唱片公司找她們出專輯，並且以『芝麻龍眼』的名字在1988年1月版他們的第一張專輯「動不動就說愛我」，引來外間很大的迴­響。『芝麻龍眼』名字的由來則是有一次到公司時睡眼惺忪的陳艾玲眼睛和大眼睛的林育如有很強的對比，於是『芝麻龍眼』的暱稱就這樣叫開了。1988年11月再推出第二張專­輯「重新愛一次」，這一次她們發揮了美工的所長，參與了專輯的封面和內頁的計設。這張專輯同樣銷售不錯，於是唱片公司再接再勵於1989年1月推出第三張專輯「民歌往事」­，其中還特別收入了她們第一次合作的歌曲「想你」。1989年1月28日早上[芝麻龍眼]、 王默君 及宣傳人員 陳中 參加華視的春節特別節目「把愛還給大地慈善禮讚」義演活動，從台北搭機飛往高雄小港機場，出機場時搭乘由孫姓司機駕駛的計程車前往國賓飯店，沿路司機一路飆車，並跨越雙黃­線，在行經中山四路200巷口時，與左轉的 貨櫃車相撞，當場造成坐在後座右方的[王默君]當場死亡，坐在中間的龍眼[林育如]腦部嚴重傷昏迷，而前座的陳中則鎖骨斷裂。經緊急送醫後，與死神搏鬥昏迷14天的龍眼[­林育如]，於2月11日下午1點15分逝世於高雄醫學院附設醫院，享年只有25歲，而讓歌迷留下無限的遺憾。 1990年7月沉寂了一年半之久，慢慢走出傷痛 陳艾玲, 推出了個人專輯「一個人唱歌的時候」，其中特別收錄了龍眼的兩首歌詞。而後又出了「心夢淚痕」、「民歌小唱」等專輯，其間並與吳宗憲在禮拜日下午主持一個綜藝節目[五光十­色]。而後在鄉城唱片結束時，加入異果音樂公司，其間推出了「秋天的故事」、「紅顏花蝶戀」、[紅薔薇]專輯，現在陳艾玲已經完全退居幕後工作。陳艾玲現職於台灣環球唱片­國語部製作經理

天梯 The Ladder of Love

四十年代重慶真人真事六歲的時候他認識了比他大十歲的她。 縱使受盡白眼和閒言閒語，在十六歲那一年他跟她說：「讓我照顧你一生一世好嗎？」 為了避開俗世，他們遠離塵世到深山定居，過著艱苦但快樂的生活。 上山下山步步艱難，為了怕妻子受傷，他決定用雙手開墾石級。 結果用了五十多年的時間，鑿了一條六千多級的石梯。 終於在02 年一隊登山隊發現了這條偉大的天梯和這個驚世的愛情故事。 故事主人翁劉國江先生在07 年與世長辭，她的妻子決定留在深山，終生與天梯廝守。 謹把此曲獻給建造這偉大的愛情天梯的劉國江先生。


A real story in the 40s in China - a 6 years old boy met his signature half who was 10 years older than him. Although there were so many rejecting voices and unfriendly looks, the boy told his girl friend when he was 16, "Let me take care of you for the rest of your life. Would you give me your hands?" She was just become a widow at that time. They went to the mountain and built up their own home there. Climbing up and down the mountain was pretty hard. To avoid his wife having accident, the man started to build a stone ladder with his bare hands. A ladder with more than 6000 steps was completed in 50 years. This ladder was discovered by a group of mountain climbers in 2002 and their story was then known. The man died in 2007 and his wife decided to stay in the mountain where their home was and where the old man was buried. This man was named Kwok-Kwong Lau and his wife was Chiu-Ching Chui. This song was written based on this great love story.

OCD - how much you know about it?

Obsessive Compulsory Disorder...psychologists or educators call it OCD. When I first heard that, I have puzzles in my mind. What's that? And how it affects me? Why it happens to my family? I could not sleep that night, just to think about what I have read online and all those printout from the web. It's easily be confused with autism and sometimes people cannot even notice others who have that issue. This disorder is due to the specific chemistry in one's brain and the person who has that disorder cannot control himself on doing something. Most people who have it would have the following symptoms: -

1) Repeat doing the same thing many many times in a day without a good reason such as washing hands all the times to make sure that it is clean
2) Most of the time, that person would be in great anxiety and he worries a lot, worries if he's normal, worries if he would be loved, worries for being left alone...
3) Very stubborn and highly organized on doing something such as slippers have to be placed in certain way, toy cars have to be placed facing the same direction side by side...
4) When he wants to do something, he will do it no matter what. Even though he knows that it is not allowed, he cannot control himself not to do it.
5) Emotionally unstable and can be triggered to be depressed or anxious. You can see the worries and anxiety in their eyes.

I see all these symptoms on my son and the counselor reinforce and ensure me that my son has OCD even though we are still waiting for appointment of his assessment. The counselor told me that we are lucky to spot the issue early and hopefully intervention can help him to direct back to the main track easily. 2 referrals have been given to me and my husband and see which source can give us an early date of assessment and get suitable training for us to teach him.

I feel lucky that we have sent him to Chibi Chan which has the support from The Parent Place where the counselor can able to recognize his issue. On the other hand, the counselor told me that Chibi Chan is not the suitable school for my son as it is always too busy and the teachers are not experienced enough and kind enough to be able to handle a kid with OCD. I'm sad to learn that he may need another school because the the current one cannot facilitate his needs. The school sort of does not want to and capable to deal with that. Honestly speaking, it would be a valuable experience to meet with professionals to learn more how to help kids. However, sometimes things just cannot be perfect, especially that we are human beings.

I don't blame the parent that complained about my son's behaviors in school but I feel so disappointed that as a mother, this parent cannot set a good example to her kid to be kind and generous. The way she talked and what she talked were so childish and insensitive to me. When my kids are around me, I would try to be a model to them when I talk to people, particularly in a school party with almost all the parents and children in it. I told my husband that we should not be like her, we are not kids and we should not act like kids. We love our kids but we love other children too. Most of the children in the school are lovely and I won't pick on a kid because he cannot act like the others. Honestly speaking, my son is friendly and lovely most of the time.

I hope that someone can tell me that my son has no issue and he can be successful but I need to face the facts that he and we need help. It's hard for us to learn that but as parents, we have to set a model and lead them to the right ways.

兩個選擇 (轉寄自一封電郵) Two Choices

今天打開友人寄給我的一封電郵,讀著讀著不期然哭了,一個孩子簡單的心願,一個父親想令孩子圓夢的期望,一群心懷關愛的男孩,小小的一場球賽勝負比對於小男生受用一生的經歷,是何等微不足道~


兩個選擇  
你會怎麼做？請你作出你的選擇，這不是什麼機智問答。我的問題是：你會作出同樣的選擇嗎？  


在一個學習遲緩兒童學校的募款餐會上，在場的所有人永遠忘不了其中一個學生的父親所說的話。  
在推祟學校和教職員的付出和貢獻後，這個家長問了一個問題：  


照理說在無外力干擾下，大自然所創造的一切都是完美的。 


但我的兒子，西恩，他無法像別的孩子一樣的學習，他無法像別的孩子一樣的理解事物~ 在我孩子身上，大自然的法則何在？  


所有聽眾都啞口無言。  

這個父親繼續說。我相信當像西恩這樣有身體及心智殘缺的孩子來到這個世界，是一個展現人類真實本性的機會。 而這一次體現在別人如何對待這個孩子。  

接著，他說了下面這個故事：  西恩和我走過一個公園，裡面有些西恩所認識的男孩正在玩棒球。 
西恩問我：＂你想他們會讓我一起玩嗎？＂我知道大部份的孩子不會想要有西恩這樣的孩子在自己的隊上， 但身為一個父親我同時也知道若他們能讓我兒子參加，這會讓他得到他所迫切需要的歸屬感並建立起自己 雖然是殘障仍能被接受的信心。  


我走近一個男童（不抱太大希望的）問他西恩可否參加，他看看周圍的隊友然後說＂我們輸了6分而現在正在第8局上， 我想他何以參加我們的隊，我們會 在第9局設法讓他上場打擊。”  

西恩帶著滿臉的喜悅困難的走向他的球隊的休息區，穿上該隊的球衣，我悄悄的滴下眼淚而心中有滿滿的溫暖。 而那些男孩也看出了我對於兒子被接納的喜悅。 


在8局下，西恩的隊有追了上來，但仍然還輸3分。  

第9局上半場，西恩戴上手套防守右外野，雖然没有球往他的位置飛來， 但能在場上他已經很高興了，我從看台上向他揮手他笑的合不攏嘴。  在9局下，西恩的球隊又得分了。  而此時，二出局滿壘的狀況，下一棒是球隊逆轉的機會，而西恩正是被排在這一棒。  在這個重要關頭，他們會讓西恩上場打擊而放棄贏球的機會嗎？  

讓人驚奇的是他們真的把球棒交給了西恩，大家都知道西恩根本不可能打到球， 因為他甚至不知道怎麼握球棒更別談碰到球了。然而當西恩踏上打擊位置， 投手已經明白對手為了西恩生命中重要的這一刻放下贏球的機會， 所以他往前走了幾步投了一個很軟的球給西恩讓他至少能碰一下。  

第一球投出來，西恩笨拙的揮棒落空。  投手又再往前走了幾步投出一個軟軟的球給西恩。  當球飛過來西恩揮棒打出一個慢速的滾地球，直直的滾向投手。  球賽眼看就要結束。 
 
投手撿起這軟軟的滾地球，他可以輕易的把球傳給一壘手讓西恩出局而結束這場球賽。  然而投手把球高高的傳往一壘手的頭頂上方通過，讓他所有的隊友都接不到。  每個站在看台上的人不管是那一隊的都開始喊著：＂西恩，跑到一壘！跑到一壘！跑到一壘！＂  西恩這輩子從來没有跑這麼遠過，但他還是努力跑到了一壘。  

他踩上壘包眼睛張的很 大而且很驚喜。  每個人都喊著說：＂西恩，跑向二壘，跑向二壘！＂  剛喘過氣，西恩蹣跚的跑向二壘，很辛苦的往壘包跑。  這時，就在西恩往二壘跑時，右外野手拿到了球，這個全隊最矮的小子第一次有了成為隊上英雄的機會了。  他大可把球傳向二壘，但這個全隊最矮的小子了解投手的心意，所以他也把球故意高高傳過三壘手的頭頂過去。  

當前面的跑者往本壘跑時，西恩跌跌撞撞的往三壘跑。  大家都大喊著，＂西恩，跑,下去，跑下去。＂  西恩能到達三壘是因為對方的遊擊手跑來幫忙將他帶往三壘的方向，而且喊著，＂跑到三壘，西恩，跑到三壘。＂  

當西恩抵達三壘，雙方的選手和所有的觀眾都站起來，高喊著，＂西恩，全壘打！全壘打！＂  西恩跑回本壘踩上壘包時，大家為西恩大聲喝采就如他打了一個大滿貫並為全隊贏的比賽的英雄般。  

"那一天＂，那個父親兩頰淚流滿面輕柔的說，＂兩隊的男孩子把真愛和人性的光輝帶進了這個世界。＂ 
 
西恩没能活到另一個夏天，他在那年的冬天過逝，但他從没忘記他曾經是個英雄而且讓我們那麼高興，以及他回家時看著媽媽流著淚擁著她的小英雄的那一天！ 

Surprising Anniversary

On 2/16/2010, we have been married for 5 years. Both of us cannot believe that it's already 5 years. But, we have a proof - our son, who born 1 year after our marriage, is going to be 4 years old. In these 5 years, we have experienced many different things, good and bad, happy and sad. Warren's important relatives passed away and we have seen changes of relationships. Somehow, it is very sad that people do not act like the same and they stopped to pretend to be friendly and nice. No more family gathering, no more talking...instead, there are argument on money, bad-mouthing, no trust. We saw how these happened and we sort of knew why. I hope that it won't happen to our family.

We have arguments, we fought, we cursed, we made up, we forgave, we tried to forget and we learned to love more. I could not know if we could be together until we die but I believe that we would not let our marriage die without trying to rescue. We have seen friends divorced or screwed up and we just learned from their lessons. Hopefully, we would repeat their mistakes.

With the current economy and uncertainty at work, I canceled the Valentine's dinner (I made it a Chinese New Year family dinner). But on our anniversary day, we went out for a dinner without the kids. When I am outside the door of home, Warren told me that he had left something downstairs and I believed that it would be either his phone or mails. Then, I heard that my mom brought the kids downstairs. When I opened the door, my daughter gave me a bunch of red roses which was the stuff that Warren left downstairs. He bought me the red roses. As a tradition, I made it into dry flowers and it would stay in the vase in the house kitchen for one year.

Honey, I love you!

Spencer 病了，老公要出街

Spencer病了，口腔受感染，吃不下飲不了，看見他只是不停哭，真的很心痛。婆婆看見他也懚不住哭了，可是爸爸卻要上街，他７時已想囝囝上床睡覺，囝囝哭叫到差不多９時都未睡去，囡囡又不知何故今晚到９時也未肯睡，爸爸發脾氣駡囝囝，我真的不高興，最後，我叫他走吧，我寧可自己照顧兩個，也不想他對囝囝這樣，Spencer這麼少又有病，比較扭計也情有可原，爸爸自己想去玩，要囝囝配合，是不是很自私？我也不是一個有耐性的人，但我希望可以給病中的囝囝多點關懷。幸好囝囝之後很乖，自己睡着了，囡囡也在給她餵哺後很快也睡了。

有時真是不明白老公，他或許仍未適應當爸爸做丈夫，或是他根本不適合？

回憶我懷孕的日子

2007-12-07

今天是我第一次寫blog, 回想懷孕的日子，好像很久以前的事，其實又只不過還不到兩年。Spencer 現在快21個月大，Amanda亦已16星期大。兩次懷孕都有驚險，幸好，兩個寶貝最後都平安出生。