One thing that you should never tell your kids

There is one thing that you should never tell your kids......I don't love you.

My son is now 4 and he's a very sensitive boy. Compared to him, my daughter is a tough girl although she is only 2-1/2, she has a strong character. She will never want to surround even though she knows that it's her fault. My son seems to be very uncooperative and I know that he wants to always seek attention. He will come to me and sit on my laps just to snuggle. He loves to be pampered, he loves to be carried, he loves to be hugged, he loves to be kissed....For his age, I think that he wants to a big boy but he still looks for sense of security and acknowledgment. He likes compliments and he likes to be a big helper.

One night, he's not really cooperative when I told him to go to bed. Before bedtime, he's not focus on learning his numbers. I kind of lost my temper, even though I know that it was wrong to speak loud to him, I did so. He started to cry and he told me that he's scared, kept saying that he did not know the answer. With the current education system, we have to start preparing him to elementary school interviews as we don't know if he can be able to be assigned to a good public school. Private school is a back up choice. To be successful in interviewing, he needs to be able to recognize alphabets, numbers, able to write his name, able to answer questions, etc. With his refusal to learn, I suddenly wanted to tease him. I told him that I did not love him. He asked me if I did not love him, I reconfirmed 2 times. Then, he started to cry loud in his bed. My husband had to come in to comfort him. Later, my husband told me that I should never tell a kid that I don't love him.

I know. Do I not know better? I should not say that I do not love my son. He's such a loving boy and he loves me no matter what and I know that he needs to confirm that he has my love. It's mean and cold to say something like that to a 4-year-old. I guarantee, I would not say that again to him any more, not even a joke. And actually, how can I not love my kid?